What parent has the time or the inclination to go through their tween or teens every post, chat, email, photo or text message on their mobile device? Not many, especially in today’s busier than ever society. When it comes to parenting in cyberspace, there is plenty of debate around invading your child’s privacy and spying, but the experts have weighed in.
Yes, parents should know what is happening in the space where their kids spend about 10 hours a day.
“It’s like a loaded gun,” said Pamela Casey, a district attorney in Blount County, Ala., during an interview last month on CBS This Morning. Casey is on a national crusade warning people about the dangers of social media and her online safety videos have been seen by millions across the country.
Casey said, “this is the new crime of our time,” and added “if you pick up your child’s phone and you don’t know the password, that’s a problem. If you don’t know.”
Years ago, parents had to worry about their child getting taken by the creepy guy in the van hanging out at the local playground. Now the creepy guy in the van is sitting in his house, talking with children online and grooming them. Parents don’t realize that the danger has just shifted from the playground to their child’s bedroom.
Take a minute and click here to watch a quick video which demonstrates just how easy it is for a stranger to get your child to meet up in person.
So, how can you parent effectively and ensure your child’s safety without spying on them?
The answer is simple. Alerts.
As a parent, you need to be alerted if your child is engaging in any behavior that you, as their guardian, teacher, and protector would disapprove of. There are other apps on the market which allow parents to view every action taken on their child’s smartphone, but Social Judo is the only one which simply alerts you, in real time, to the concerns that you specifically have for each of your children.
For example, if your main concern with your 17-year-old senior in high school is his new friendship with “Johnny” because Johnny is a known pot smoker and troublemaker, simply set a geo-alert around Johnny’s house, you will then be alerted the second your child enters that physical space. If your concern is that your 15-year-old daughter is being bullied, set alerts to language that may give you the heads up, creating a parenting moment that otherwise, would have been missed.
The idea with Social Judo, unlike the other parenting software available, is that you as the parent control what information you are alerted to, instead of scrolling through all of the information on your child’s device. It creates parenting moments and offers peace of mind.
It is far from spying, and it is certainly not an invasion of your child’s privacy.
It is smart parenting in the digital age.
Also, when it comes to sexting, what Social Judo does is totally unique. If your child attempts to take or receive photos with nudity, Social Judo picks up the information using a complex algorithm. It then takes that photo and hides it on your child’s device. It is impossible when using Social Judo, to sext. Problem solved.
In 20 years of clinical work with parents, tweens, and teens, I have never seen a more appropriate, useful or necessary parenting tool. I encourage every parent to use Social Judo because not only will it keep your tween or teen safe, but it also puts parenting back in your hands.
Get it, I promise you won’t be disappointed.
Andrea Difilippo is a Licensed Independent Clinical Social Worker, nationally recognized parenting expert and Chief Parenting Officer with Social Judo.